The Parenting After Abuse Project

I’m A Survivor… And I’m A Mom

Survivor is a
term of empowerment typically used for those who have faced major adversity.  In my circumstances, I’m a survivor of childhood abuse.

There are numerous resources available for survivors from childhood abuse. Just do a quick internet search, and you’re bound to find forums, blogs, books, articles and professionals all aimed at helping this group of people.

Which is amazing!  Because these resources give back power and voice to those who have suffered so greatly.

But what about those of us who have survived these adversities and are now parents. There are only a handful of resources I’ve managed to find that aims to help this group of people.  Click here for some of the resources.

Why Is This Needed?

Why can’t I just go to all the survivor groups and blogs and find what I need there?

  • Because no one told me how anxious I would feel about keeping my daughter safe.
  • Because I wasn’t prepared for the paranoia over leaving my baby in the care of others because who knows what they are capable of.
  • Because at ten months old I’m already thinking about how to convey body safety so that nothing unspeakable happens to her as it was done to me.
  • Because I’ve found myself depressed because I’m not able to stay home with her. And memories of an emotionally distant and neglectful mother make this sting much more.
  • Because I find myself obsessing about the way in which I parent so that she has a better life than I had.

And I’m not alone.

There are so many parents who are blindsided with the aftermath of their trauma when becoming parents.

Child birth causes intense triggers and invasive memories. Breastfeeding can be downright intolerable because of how it feels like old memories. Anger rises at innocent children because it’s so hard to control and manage.

The effects go on and on.

The Project

Over the past couple of months, I’ve felt compelled to start this project. To provide resources and encouragement to those of us in the throws of parenting who are trying to process the demons of our past so that we can give our children better.

Because they deserve that life. The life we never got.

Being a better parent is possible. You have the opportunity to start the new book in the saga of your family.  How exciting is that??  It starts with you. And you CAN make that difference for your children, for their children and so on.

Join Me On This Journey

Links coming soon!

  • Unsure about your own experience?

    Learn what childhood abuse looks like.

  • How does childhood abuse effect the way we parent?

    Learn about the ways in which abuse impacts parenting.

  • How do I be the best parent I can be to give my children the childhood they deserve

    Read blog posts about child development, research on parenting practices, and gain encouragement in your own journey as a parent.

  •  Where can I find further help?

    Find some resources that I’ve found useful during this project here.

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